DON'T BELIEVE THIS LIE!
I am alone.
I’m the only mom who…
If anyone knew the truth, they would realize that I’m actually unworthy of love.
After all, that’s what I believe about myself.
So I’ll just keep it hidden. I’ll keep choosing safety instead of vulnerability…all the while comparing myself to everyone else who is so much more qualified to live life well and give and receive love.
Those thoughts may seem a little intense or far-out. But I assure you that if you haven’t thought them, the next mom you see has. I think them about certain situations at least once a day!
One of our deepest human desires is for meaningful community. In fact, I believe God created the family unit for that exact purpose – a built-in form of beautiful connection to keep us safe while teaching us to be brave. Chances are, all of our greatest successes were not accomplished alone. And all of our biggest failures were not overcome alone, either. That’s what we’re hoping to teach our kids. That’s the exact environment I hope to be fostering in my home. How about you?
And that’s the exact environment I hoped that the I Am Mother of the Year community would become – a safe place for moms to be themselves while they discover how to be brave. I’m happy to say that the community IS that place for thousands of moms.
Nothing makes me more excitedly proud than when I read things like this – check out this response to a new group member:
Welcome, Nicole! We are the women who will have your back when you post about hiding in the closet to eat a chocolate chip so you don’t have to share with your kids.
Ummm, yeah we will!
And we’ll also have your back when you need to know you’re not the only mother struggling with miscarriage, foster care, or PTSD.
Read this post from Mother of the Year, Cathy:
Are there any other mamas with clinically diagnosed PTSD (not military-related)? One, I want to know I’m not alone and two, I’m curious for others’ coping mechanisms. I’m seeing a fantastic counselor but feeling super alone in this journey.